Sunday, May 10, 2015

Mother is Also a Verb

Today in church, Rev. James shared a touching litany of motherhood. It was based on a 2012 blog posting where the author attempted to 'acknowledge the wide continuum of mothering', and a lot of us found it profoundly moving, especially when done as a responsive reading.
To those who gave birth this year to their first child—we celebrate with you
To those who lost a child this year – we mourn with you
To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains – we appreciate you
To those who experienced loss through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away—we mourn with you
To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is.
To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual moms – we need you
To those who have warm and close relationships with your children – we celebrate with you
To those who have disappointment, heart ache, and distance with your children – we sit with you
To those who lost their mothers this year – we grieve with you
To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother – we acknowledge your experience
To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of motherhood – we are better for having you in our midst
To those who have aborted children – we remember them and you on this day
To those who are single and long to be married and mothering your own children – we mourn that life has not turned out the way you longed for it to be
To those who step-parent – we walk with you on these complex paths
To those who envisioned lavishing love on grandchildren -yet that dream is not to be, we grieve with you
To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year – we grieve and rejoice with you
To those who placed children up for adoption — we commend you for your selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart
And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising –we anticipate with you
This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you
Our relationships with both our own mothers and the mothers of our children can sometimes be complex, as anyone familiar with Pink Floyd can tell you, but I greatly appreciated the post's author, Amy, reminding us of this maternal spectrum.

Today I was grateful for the opportunity to share brunch with my immediate family as well as my sister and mother. A round of mimosas is a small thanks for all these women do, but on a patio with the sun shining and a chance for our daughters to see how it's done, it still felt gratifying.

Happy Mother's Day to all those who mother us!

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