Monday, August 4, 2025

Mutually Acquaintanced

If friends are a blessing (and this point is not actually up for debate), how much more of a blessing are friends who are friends with your friends?

I have known Island Mike since junior high school, and we have remained friends and confidants throughout the years, despite running in drastically different social circles in high school, and despite not having lived in the same area code since 1993. We were best men at each other's weddings and despite only connecting sporadically, his wife and children feel like family to me. 

And in my local friends group, the usual G&G and Geekquinox suspects, at least three other couples have been out to visit Mike and Kelly on the island over the years.

At the Riverhawks game Friday night

With the two of them in town for a family wedding, I offered up our place for a get-together pot luck and smoked a brisket, thinking that at some point maybe the lads could sneak off for a board game or some such while the ladies chatted - but the gaming never started because the chatting never stopped.

People came and people went (with commitments of their own), literal bread was broken and libations shared, and the patio table remained occupied for about eight hours, from half past two to half past ten. Peak attendance was around 11, with two regrets.

It was glorious.

There was no agenda, and at a couple points, smaller groups wandered off to visit the dog park with Canéla or tour the Crystal Palace, but the table was never abandoned throughout a third of the day. 

We talked about everything and nothing, from family and health challenges to games and television. About our impending retirements (some sooner than others) and how we intended to spend our time, because we all agreed, as appealing as doing nothing might sound, Covid taught us all how unsatisfactory it can be in the long term. But I could have done nothing at that table, with those people,  for a good while longer than I did.

These brief intersections are so precious, and the dynamics at work are so intriguing when the larger group gets together - the geometry quickly becomes ungraphable and you simply have to let it draw you in. I am so grateful that Glory was around to take part in it.

Because sitting here now and typing this at 11 pm with a work day looming and a dirty kitchen upstairs and an extracted molar giving me grief, and yes, maybe a few too many servings of reposado on a school night that I may find regrettable tomorrow morning - I still feel like the luckiest man on Earth.

Thank you, friends!

Sunday, July 27, 2025

More Than Just Great - Fantastic Four: First Steps, Reviewed

Despite being the first superheroes created by Marvel Comics (yes, predating Spider-Man, Iron Man and the Hulk!), the Fantastic Four have not had much like being adatped to movies or TV. The Roger Corman version from 1994 (unreleased) is objectively terrible, the 2005 Tim Story films didn't blow anyone's skirts up, and the 2015 Josh Trank version was an utter bomb, regarded by many as being the worst superhero movie ever released, and Marvel disliked the movie so much they not only killed analogues of the actors in another comic, they cancelled the Fantastic Four comic itself. 

Fantastic Four: First Steps finally gives Marvel's First Family the platform they deserve.

Director Matt Shakman (WandaVision) and a host of writers have crafted a tight little adventure film (first Marvel film to clock in under two hours in who knows how long) that has great heart and expresses the core characters pretty much perfectly.

By settting the movie in a completely independent timeline (Earth 828, for artist/creator Jack Kirby's birthday), the filmmakers not only gave themselves a chance to play with a retro-future vision of New York, but removing it from an increasingly convoluted MCU continuity means absolutely no 'homework' is required by exhausted, lapsed or maybe even new viewers.

The casting is pitch perfect, from Pedro Pascal's portrayal of Reed Richards/ Mr. Fantastic as a brilliant, preoccupied but loving husband, to Vanessa Kirby/ Invisible Woman showcasing Susan Storm as being protective, diplomatic but also ruthless when her family is threatened. Joseph Quinn brings the needed sass and swagger to Johnny Storm/ the Human Torch but doesn't look out of place when displaying his own insights and intelligence.

My favourite is Ebon Moss-Bachrach as Ben Grimm/ The Thing, for carrying so much humanity and empathy through a CGI-created set of rock-like features - my compliments to the FX team! He also underplays the mopishness and woe-is-me nature so prevalent in the early FF stories. His deep appreciation of his found family does not grate against his desire to punch a threat if the opportunity presents itself.

I wish I could spend more time in retro-pastiche Earth 828, and the next time I watch this film I will pay even more attention to the billboards, ads and magazine covers (although wow it felt like a lot of product placement early on). I love that one of the montage bits early on show the Mole Man abducting the Pan-Am (Airlines) tower, and all the analog touches like tape drives for the H.E.R.B.I.E. robots.

For the first time in a long time, a Marvel picture has balanced action, character, humour and pathos proportionately while still bringing all the vibrancy and wonder of the source material. It is a wonderful thing to experience in the theaters, and a real tour de force in superhero films.

Most critically for me though, is how quickly they establish what differentiates the Fantastic Four from every other team in comics - the fact that they are a family.

Family, loyalty and sacrifice are themes that run throughout the film, and I would love to delve into them except for fear of spoiling even the tiny revelations that enthralled me. Suffice to say, this is one of the better Galactus stories I have ever come across because of the hard choices given the heroes in this story.

The love and optimism displayed in Fantastic Four: First Steps make it a great double-feature pairing with Superman, at  time when the real world could use a lot of both. Highly recommended, not just to comic fans, but to anyone who appreciates wonder on the big screen.

Monday, July 21, 2025

PG ‘25 - The Ancient Forest

Sorry for the delay in posting - it did not take very much camping time to get to the “what day is this again?” stage.

We have been at a campground called MamaYeh, 15 min south of Prince George, the ‘northern capital’ of British Columbia. Tomorrow we pull up stakes and head three hours west and a smidgen North to Burns Lake to visit our niece, but we wanted a couple days to see what was in this area (and to break up the 11 hour drive time from Edmonton). And even without flush toilets, it is a lovely campsite, with a great host.

One of the things to see is an amazing inland rainforest, at B.C.‘s newest provincial park, Chun T’oh Whudujut. It turns out you don’t have to drive out to Clayuquot on Vancouver Island to witness immense, 1000-year-old cedars.

There is an accessible boardwalk with minimal elevation change, but lured upward with the promise of a waterfall, we instead opted for the larger loop with a lot more climbing than I’d anticipated. 

The footing is sure on a sturdy boardwalk and steps, all built and maintained by volunteers.



It is very dense off the boardwalk, and I can only imagine how easy it would be to get lost in terrain like this, and wondering what sort of fauna is lurking just out of sight in the underbrush.

At one point, Canéla stopped pulling ahead on her leash and drew back with a low growl, which I found unnerving. Another dog would have made her bark, as would any small mammals like a squirrel or mouse. I looked intently ahead, and saw nothing, so I coaxed her forward again, but once more she balked, growling more loudly.

“What is it girl? What’s the matter?” I asked, knowing full well a response of any kind was unlikely. Once more I peered into the low brush surrounding the immense cedar trunks, following a dry creekbed heading downhill to our right. Surely not big enough for a bear or cougar, was it?

Audrey drew up behind us and asked, “hey, is she scared of the knot coming out of that stump? The one that looks kind of like a birds head?”

Sure enough, that’s what it was - and I was so relieved I never even thought to take a picture!

No injuries or wildlife encounters, but we were all pretty tired by the time we got back to the Lander. But the waterfall really is worth the effort.



Sunday, July 13, 2025

A Hard Story About a Soft Guy - Superman, Reviewed

Let me start off by saying that as much as I enjoyed James Gunn's Superman movie, both as a showcase for the world first real superhero and as the foundation for a rebooted shared universe for DC comics characters, my favourite iteration of Kal-el remains his portrayal on the Justice League aninamted series. (The same goes for Batman and I adored Matt Reeves' noirish take!)

After nearly a century of storytelling I think it has become apparent that, whatever the medium, is it not difficult to write a Superman story. He has an extensive array of interesting powers, many of which lend themselves well to a dynamic medium like film or television. He has an extensive and largely well-known lore and backstory, as well as one of the best rogues gallery in comic books.

So writing a story with one of the most beloved fictional characters is not supremely difficult -  it is estimated that there are over 50,000 indiviudal comics featuring Superman.

The challenge is in writing a good Superman story; one that is compelling and original and surprising. And although I have some problems with the how of it, I think James Gunn has done this with Superman.

In the interest of avoiding spoilers, I will be avoiding detailed discussions of some of what I felt were shortcomings. Some of them are nitpicks and couel of them really aren't,  and I felt that each of them could have been written around. 

The most critical thing they got right is the heart of Clark Kent himself; a midwesterner committed to helping people and doing the right thing. Not just beating up bad guys, but saving people (and more than a couple of animals).

They also got the casting and the supporting cast spot-on, from the journalists of the Daily Planet (especially Rachel Brosnahan in what feels like a very Margot Kidder-influenced Lois Lane) to the other heroes in the 'Justice Gang' (esp. Nathan Fillion's arrogant Green Lanter Guy Gardner). But special mention has to go to Nicholas Hoult for portraying a Lex Luthor with all the smarts and savvy of past interpretations and then infusing him with a roiling core of anger borne out of jealousy and perceived inadequacy. 

This acrimony lefd to some surprisingly mean-hearted moments that, even for a megalomaniacal and selfish tool like Luthor left me a bit surprised, but I respect the boldness of the choice. There are a few bold choices in the film, not all of which I agreed with, but all of which I think I understood.

Some of the best things about Superman is what they didn't do, however.

  • They didn't make it an origin story (thank Gawd)
  • They didn't have him straight up murder anyone, or let someone die to preserve his secret identity
  • They didn't make his dog smarter than they majority of other characters - in fact, notwithstanding the superpowers, Krypto is maybe the most realistic dog in movie history
  • They didn't get rid of the red trunks, a bag part of Superman's iconic look
  • They didn't make Lois a patsy for Superman, challenging him instead

As a comic-lover, there was a lot for me to like in this film. As a movie lover, Gunn gave all of Superman's weaknesses an opportunity to be exploited, from the well known mineral ones to the less-explored social ones. He gave one of the most powerful characters in fiction multiple (maybe too many) opportunities to be vulnerable and a great assortment of characters to play his strengths and weaknesses against. 

The action sequences are dynamic for sure, Gunn's trademark humour is given many places to shine, but the best thing about Superman is its intrinsic belief about good - not that good will always triumph over evil, but simply what good is. The rest is nitpicking.

This is the Superman I have been waiting for for 45 years. Welcome back, Clark.

Sunday, July 6, 2025

More Fast, Less Furious - F1, Reviewed

I came out of our Canada Day viewing of F1: The Movie with two thoughts:

  1. That is some seriously commercial and formulaic filmmaking; and
  2. That is a great summer movie.

The shorthand is, if you enjoyed the speed and camerawork of last year's Top Gun: Maverick, this is cut from essentially the same cloth, only at a much lower altitude. It not only has the same director (Joseph Kosinski), but where TGM had the full cooperation of the US Department of Defense and Navy, this one not only has Formula 1 Racing behind it, but even boasts seven-time World Driver's Champion Lewis Hamilton as an executive producer. Some wags are calling it Top Gear: Maverick, which I wish I'd thought of...

Brad Pitt plays Sonny Hayes, a one-time Formula 1 up and comer from decades back who is now a mercenary wheelman drifting from race to race (including the grueling 24 hours at LeMans!) without connections or continuity. His old teammate (Javier Bardem), now the owner of a struggling F1 team, begs him to return to the league in order to help him salvage what remains of a terrible season. 

Along the way he will have to contend with a prickly relationship with his rookie teammate (Damson Idris), convince a female engineer (Kerry Condon) to re-design the car and, of course, deal with the ghosts from his past - as well as a full field of younger, yet more experienced drivers.

The great thing about sports movies (which this undoubtedly is) is that the conflict is built in and you honestly don't need a whole ton of plot. The story of F1 isn't quite paint-by-numbers, but it is definitely done by the numbers, with not too many surprises in store along the way.

So why bother watching it?

Well, since they let Idris and Pitt drive on real F1 tracks with legit F2 cars during actual Grand Prix weekends (but not at the same time as guys like Lewis Hamilton or Max Verstappen), you are unlikely to ever get a better look at what F1 racing looks like at ground level.

And to be clear here, I am not a guy who really gives a hoot about motorsports, but I appreciate the skill and engineering behind any competition this intense, and let's face it, these amazing vehicles are essentially jet fighters on wheels. Kosinski has repurposed a lot of his technology from TGM and reapplied it to these road rockets, and makes even the qualifying laps look engaging and intense. In fact we all agreed that early shots of the spoiler dropping to increase speed should have been repeated more in later races (but this may be due to rules about how he drag reduction system is used).

I can't speak to how realistic the film is, because how the hell would I know, but they have enough good-looking details for the serious fans and enough explanations for newbies like me to keep the challenges and stakes clear without constant exposition. And I know Sonny's unconventional 'Plan C's would get a real-world driver penalized, if not litigated, indicted, or simply assaulted in pit row.

The story, though simple, does not treat its audience as stupid. The goal is not to win the championship or even a single race, but just to improve the team's standing enough that the board does not force the owner to sell and put a rookie driver out of work. No one will die if the goal is unmet, and there is no villain from another team sabotaging their cars or racing dirty to put them in their place. In fact, the lack of mustache twirling made the movie more enjoyable as a whole. Honestly, when the protagonist is coming out of a straightaway at 350+ km/h and approaching a corner on worn out tires, inertia is a sufficient enough antagonist, don't you think?

The product placement is relentless, even away from the track, so if you don't like logos, maybe give this film a miss. But the international venues are a real treat for the eyes on a big screen.

F1: The Movie has everything you want from a solid summer entertainment spectacle: thrills, spills, drama, charming performers and the occasional laugh. It's a pretty good date movie, as those who aren't that interested in cars can enjoy Pitt and Idris in everything from witty banter to ice baths.

And all of it, especially the cars but also the scenery, looks better on a bigger screen, so that and Hans Zimmer's score (plus a very decent soundtrack) made me glad we splurged and saw it in IMAX.

Sunday, June 29, 2025

Pulpitations: Healing Tears

(This is the reflection I delivered on Jun 15, 2025, as part of a service led by our Living In Right Relations Committee.)


Gestalt is a great word. It is a German term that expresses the idea that “the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.”

It is more than math; I can tell you with confidence that the numbers one, four, nine and two total up to 16 without surprising you, and the order doesn’t even matter, but if I were to day “Do Do So So La La So,” very few of us would be likely to pick up on the fact that these are the notes that make up “Twinkle Twinkle.” A list of tones is not the same thing as a melody.

I mention gestalt because I initially agreed to preach today knowing it was Father’s Day. Afterwards I learned that it is also Indigenous Day of Prayer, which I thought was a week later. And then I learned that my daughter Fenya and my friend Troy were going to be singing a Gregorian chant associated with Epiphany.

As I reflected on all these things, along with the three scriptural readings we heard, I thought to myself, “surely there must be some sort of through-line here, some unifying element.”

Looking back over my notes this morning, I am no longer so sure, but I will let you be the judge!

Let me begin by admitting that reconciliation has not been a lifelong ambition or goal of mine, and I am eternally grateful to this church, and its leadership, past and present, who have made such efforts to educate me on the need for reconciliation with Canada’s Indigenous peoples.

Prior to this education I would never have thought of myself as racist, and in fairness I probably wasn’t, but I certainly hadn’t recognized or come to terms with my own privilege as a white, Christian, settler person. I had never thought about how much advantage I, personally, had drawn from social structures and laws and political systems born out of colonialism, nor the stark disparity between my own experiences and someone born at the same time but on a reserve.

My Indigenous counterpart was far, far more likely to have experienced poverty, food insecurity, diminished educational opportunities and less access to clean drinking water, as well as a much higher chance of incarceration. Indigenous people make up about 5% of Canada’s population, but 32% of Federal inmates identify as such. Since 2022, Indigenous women have accounted for half of all female Federal prisoners.

And this is before you even get to our own church’s involvement in residential schools, including here in our own community. Facing our complicity with a cultural genocide is no easy task and not for the faint-hearted.


It was with these disparities and this history in mind that I took my entire family to the Truth and Reconciliation Commission event in Edmonton in April of 2014. I wanted to learn more, but more critically, I felt it was important to have white faces there in the crowd, in acknowledgment of our involvement in those problems, whether covert or overt, explicit or implicit.

With the best of intentions, I suggested we watch a film called “Rhymes for Young Ghouls”, starring Devery Jacobs long before she appeared on Reservation Dogs. The room was packed, with well over a hundred people in attendance, and perhaps slightly more indigenous than non-indigenous viewers.

The movie depicts a teenage Mi'kmaq girl in the 1970s who uses the money she earns from her uncle’s grow-op the pay a ‘truancy tax’ to the corrupt Indian agent so she can stay out of the local residential school, St. Dymphna’s.

But eventually Aila’s stash of money is stolen and she is brought to the school she has hated her entire life, and in a scene at once both mundane and so shocking that it borders on the traumatic, her long braids are cut off by the nuns at the school.

Now, for those of you who don’t know, long hair is a powerful symbol of wisdom and maturity in many aboriginal cultures, so when those heavy shears start sawing painfully away at Aila’s braids, and you are forced to watch the tormented face of this helpless, angry young woman, the response from the audience was profound.

Gasps.

A ragged, shuddering intake of breath.

A low moan.

Sniffling.

A muffled sob.

We had been warned that there was some violence in the film and that many of the scenes could be triggering for survivors of residential schools, so they had passed around boxes of tissues beforehand. I took two or three, maybe four, but still ended up having to use my shirtsleeve, which I am sure comes as no surprise.

Most interestingly though, they asked us not to dispose of these tear-soaked clumps of paper in the garbage, but to place them into paper bags to they could be burned in the sacred fire burning outside the conference centre, as a sacrifice and offering to Creator.

After adding my own tear cloths to the collection after the movie, I reflected on the wisdom of imbuing them with such significance, the humble sincerity of being joined together by empathy and sadness, and recognizing the importance of this shared catharsis. And I felt salved by this, and realized I was encountering God - epiphany.

And I wasn’t the only one. The movie had become much too intense for 11 year-old Glory well before this scene, so Audrey had taken her out of the viewing room, which, I have to tell you, did not make me feel like a very good father at all. An Indigenous woman saw Audrey comforting Glory and asked to speak to them.

She revealed that she was a residential school survivor and had also found the movie too much for her to take. But she also looked directly at Glory and told her how proud she was that someone so young would come to the TRC to see what she could and to show support and to be seen. Out of this seemingly random connection between a family and a stranger, more tears were shed. And when I heard about it afterwards, I thought - yet another epiphany.

Epiphany, sometimes called theophany, means the showing of God in the world, and it is most commonly associated with the visit of the Magi to the newborn Jesus, the first recognition of Christ’s divinity by Gentiles. The feast of Epiphany also recognizes Christ’s baptism and the wedding at Cana where he performed his first miracle by turning water into wine. In all three of these events, the presence of God is inarguable, while in my own experiences it is far more subjective, but no less definite in my mind.

God, though unknowable and undefinable in many ways, is undeniable in others.

Paul’s experience in our reading from Acts illustrates this pretty well. In the preceding verses which we didn’t hear today, it is established that Paul and the Athenians approach spirituality (and perhaps life itself) from drastically different perspectives. Paul is dismayed by the idolatry o n display in the massive Greek city, and while he debated with Epicureans and Stoics, others said, “What does this pretentious babbler want to say?”

A sentiment some of you may be experiencing at this very moment…

Paul goes to the Areopagus, a prominent hill in Athens whose name means ‘Hill of Ares’ (the Greek war god). Biblical scholars are unsure as to whether Luke is referring to the hill geographically or to either of the Athenian councils that resided there at times. Regardless, Paul gets a chance to make his case, telling the Athenians that God does not live in any shrine, and that the altar inscribed ‘to an unknown god’ might well be referring to his own deity, the creator of the world and everything in it. He reminds them that God lives within each one of us, and how even their own poets have claimed to be His offspring.

Paul underscores his argument by explaining how God has raised humanity’s ultimate judge from the dead, and if you press on to verse 32, you hear how some of the Athenians scoffed at this - but not all of them.

Some others said “We will hear you again about this,” and some even ended up joining Paul.

I don’t believe the excerpt from Acts 17 is there because of the promise of judgement or event he conversion of some Athenians, I think it fits today because of the notion that God does not exist solely among one group or tribe or race of people - God exists within every one of us.

Those of us fortunate enough to recognize this are both proud and humble and grateful for it, as we hear in Psalm 103. He is compassionate and merciful, which is reassuring when we reflect on the wrongs we have done to others, both collectively and individually, often in His name.

How good to hear, “He will not constantly accuse us, nor remain angry forever. He does not punish us for all our sins; he does not deal harshly with us, as we deserve. “ But when we hear how “the Lord gives righteousness and justice to all who are treated unfairly,” it is not enough to sit back and just wait for it to happen. Furthermore, it is not enough to wallow in guilt about the sins of the past if you are unwilling to work on solutions in the present.

Which brings us to our reading from Paul’s second letter to the church in Corinth, where he urges everyone to look forward and not back. “The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of he who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation.”

The past wrongs must never be forgotten, but there is a chance they can be forgiven. I can’t think of a better example of this than a residential school survivor telling an 11 year old white girl that she is proud of her for coming to bear witness, to participate in reconciliation.

Reconciliation comes from the Latin, and literally means, ‘to bring back together’, to restore friendly relations. It implies that people with differences were not always, and certainly do not need to remain, separate and apart. The 2nd Corinthians passage is actually referring to the reconciliation between humanity and their Creator, but there is no reason it can’t apply to the mending of earthly relations as well.

And so, on this Indigeneous day of prayer, this is my prayer for us:

That while we acknowledge our involvement in the wrongs of the past, including residential schools, we do not remain paralyzed by it.

That our interactions, both collectively and individually, with Canada’s first peoples is guided by the knowledge that the damage done by those wrongs echoes on, and that healing will take the work of generations.

That while injustice still pervades the relations between settlers and indigenous peoples, we work to address it, starting with the 94 Calls to Action given to us by the Truth and Reconciliation Commission.

And that the gestures of reconciliation that we have adopted, such as the land acknowledgement that opens every service, never be allowed to devolve into rote recitations but remain an opportunity for sincere reflection.

When we do these things, I am confident of the resulting Epiphany. God will be shown to us, just as They were shown to the Magi. Just as They were revealed to those who saw Christ baptized in the Jordan, or who witnessed His miracle at Cana. Just as my family felt God’s presence while weeping in the presence of strangers.

And make no mistake: there will be tears yet to come. But by God’s grace, they will turn from tears of anger, and frustration, and shame, and sorrow into tears of gratitude and tears of joy, and those tears will heal every one of us who weeps.

Amen

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ACTS 17:22-31 God who Made the World and everything in it.
Then Paul stood in front of the Areopagus and said, “Athenians, I see how extremely spiritual you are in every way. For as I went through the city and looked carefully at the objects of your worship, I found among them an altar with the inscription, ‘To an unknown god.’ What therefore you worship as unknown, this I proclaim to you. The God who made the world and everything in it, he who is Lord of heaven and earth, does not live in shrines made by human hands, nor is he served by human hands, as though he needed anything, since he himself gives to all mortals life and breath and all things. From one ancestor he made all peoples to inhabit the whole earth, and he allotted the times of their existence and the boundaries of the places where they would live, so that they would search for God and perhaps fumble about for him and find him—though indeed he is not far from each one of us. For ‘In him we live and move and have our being’; as even some of your own poets have said,‘For we, too, are his offspring.’

“Since we are God’s offspring, we ought not to think that the deity is like gold or silver or stone, an image formed by the art and imagination of mortals. While God has overlooked the times of human ignorance, now he commands all people everywhere to repent, because he has fixed a day on which he will have the world judged in righteousness by a man whom he has appointed, and of this he has given assurance to all by raising him from the dead.”

Psalm 103 vs 1-13 God fills life with good things

Bless the Lord, O my soul,
    and all that is within me,
    bless his holy name.
Bless the Lord, O my soul,
    and do not forget all his benefits—
who forgives all your iniquity,
    who heals all your diseases,
who redeems your life from the Pit,
    who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy,
who satisfies you with good as long as you live
    so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.

The Lord works vindication
    and justice for all who are oppressed.
He made known his ways to Moses,
    his acts to the people of Israel.
The Lord is merciful and gracious,
    slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love.
He will not always accuse,
    nor will he keep his anger forever.
He does not deal with us according to our sins
    nor repay us according to our iniquities.
For as the heavens are high above the earth,
    so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him;
as far as the east is from the west,
    so far he removes our transgressions from us.
As a father has compassion for his children,
    so the Lord has compassion for those who fear him.

2 Corinthians 5:16–21
From now on, therefore, we regard no one according to the flesh. Even though we once regarded Christ according to the flesh, we regard him thus no longer.Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. For our sake he made him to be 
sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.

Sunday, June 22, 2025

The Gladdest of Grads (or "Things Going from Sad to Nurse")

To be clear, very few people have an easy time at university, but I feel Glory's time spent working towards her BScN deserves some context and clarification.



Despite being a smart cookie and hard worker, our youngest has never been particularly academically oriented. Her apprehension during testing meant requesting accommodations during high school, and despite the pandemic demolishing her plans for grad, it also meant no provincial exams that year, which gave her a much better shot at getting into the nursing program at MacEwan.

It is a pretty demanding program that combines rigorous coursework with practical experience right from the first year, which sees the second semester divided between labs taught by experienced nurses and actual experience in clinical or hospital settings.

Glory took to the work side of things right away, but often found the theoretical side challenging, particularly in second year. Courses like anatomy and pathophysiology required massive, massive amounts of rote memorization (an 80 minute lecture could easily contain 75+ PowerPoint slides, all of which had potential exam questions) and frankly, some instructors were not even good humans, let alone quality teachers.

But to her credit, she pushed on, spending many late nights studying, and I remember her coming downstairs with tears of relief streaming down her face, unable to speak, and simply handing me her phone to show me she had received a passing grade in Anatomy.

Statistics was another immense hurdle for Glory and her bestie Brooklyn alike. You cannot memorize your way through this kind of applied mathematics, and it was a struggle that also carried very high stakes, as some of their courses in the very next semester required Stats as a pre-requisite. Worse still, Brooklyn had attempted the course on two prior occasions, and not completing on the third try might require her to withdraw from the program and reapply the following year.

They pushed themselves (and each other) to their limits in their studying, but they likely would not have passed except for the patient tutoring by Fenya's then fiancée (now ex-husband) Bobby. The six weeks prior to their writing the final, he practically lived at our kitchen table (working on his own doctorate), all three of them busy on their laptops. Watching the illumination (satori, if you will) on the girls' expressions after Bobby explained something in a way that not only made more sense to them but resonated intrinsically was a real treat, and I will always be grateful to my former son-in-law for this.

After writing their final Stats exam, Glory and Brook looked at each other, admitted neither one had any idea whatsoever if they had passed or not, then burst into tears. Brooklyn made a point of capturing their woeful expressions in a selfie, truly caught between laughing and crying, and captioned it "Nursing school = torture."

But on the day Bobby and Fenya got married and had their reception in our backyard, the girls shared the news that they had passed, and he leapt out his lawn chair to rush and congratulate them, at least as thrilled as they were.

Following a practicum on the palliative ward at Grey Nuns hospital that featured ups and downs like any workplace does (as well as her first exposure to shiftwork); Glory was confirmed as a graduand and attended the ceremony with her school chums this past Wednesday at the Winspear.





This group of wonderfully random individuals met in just as random a fashion on the very first day of classes, and have stuck together through the past four years. They also took part in a group trip to Mexico in April that I hope will reinforce their friendships for years to come.

On Wednesday though, it was all about reflecting on the hard work and dedication that had taken them through to collecting their degrees, and celebrating the end of schoolwork (but not of learning!).


We took Glory out to Tiki Tiki that evening to celebrate, and then she and Brooklyn got together with many of her classmates at another's home.

Note: only one drink (Zombie w/ flamingo) is hers

The next day though, Brooklyn and her mum dropped by the house to drop off a very special present that might have encapsulated the entire nursing school experience better than anything else:



I am so happy I was upstairs from work having my lunch when they stopped in so I could hear Glory's reaction! (Although she has confessed that seeing her tearstained face every time she opens that cupboard is not necessarily ideal...)

Try as I might, I don't think I can convey in words just how proud I am of this kid. Having been there at the moments of stress and seeing her feeling completely overwhelmed as well as all the smaller triumphs that paved the way for her receiving her degree, Glory has displayed a resolve and determination that I feel vaguely envious of. She has legitimately pushed herself for these past four years, through late nights, wearying nights of studies and coursework punctuated by laughter and tears alike, summer and spring courses and uncertainty about her instructors, her marks and her choice of careers.

But buoyed up by her friends and reinforced by good teams in her practicum placements, Glory has come through and last Wednesday got to cross the stage in front of the chancellor and faculty with her Bachelor of Science (Nursing) degree.


My youngest is now only one exam away from becoming a true Registered Nurse. She has scheduled to write he NCLEX or National Council Licensure Examination in late July and is feverishly studying for it even now).

In the meantime though, for me, this smile says it all (even if the pic is blurry): 


Congratulations, Glorianna! We are all so very proud of your achievement.